Friday, April 4, 2008

High School Migraine

The other morning I came into work after calling in sick the previous day due to migraine pain. The moment I got into my building, I had to run to the bathroom to throw up because my head was hurting so bad. Maybe I should have stayed home, but I decided to tough it out.

Ten minutes later, I staggered into my office. As I was taking off my coat, I heard a co-worker say that she really needed a day off work this month, but she had no idea how to get one when all the days off were already scheduled.

“I know. Let’s ask her,” she said, pointing at me. “How do you scam a day off work?”

At first, it didn’t sink in what she was asking me. She really caught me off guard. I was still in brain fog land from my trip to the bathroom. Therefore, I stood there looking like an idiot. Everyone around us laughed and went back to work, including her.

Dazed and confused, I headed to my desk where I sat down and it finally sank in what she had asked. Did they really think I was scamming time off work with my migraines? Maybe I was being too sensitive. Maybe I was taking it the wrong way, but it really hurt my feelings. I’m going through hell and they are thinking who knows what about me.

I know this isn’t a very nice, but I suddenly wished my migraine saint “Migrainelupe” was real and I could ask her to smite them with a super bad migraine, just for one day, just so they could see what it was like. I hate how my co-workers make me feel like I’m back in high school, but it’s just so hard to cope.

13 comments:

deborah said...

boy does that crank me up a few nasty notches; wait I just blogged myself "friendly."

Here's hoping she gets trapped alone in the bathroom with you, while you are in the midst of having to 'relieve your nausea' - do it on her freakin shoes! then tell her, "this is how to scam a day off work." and get her again.

some people. it reminds me of someone who gave me the remark "you pulled a migraine" - as if!

baldsue said...

Your co-workers must be related to my co-workers, all from the clan whose brains never matured past being twelve year-olds. Personally I would rather have my achy attic to their empty ones.

Anonymous said...

That makes my blood boil, which isn't a good thing right now - my head is pounding from pain! Little bratty co-worker...I don't blame you one bit for wanting to send bad migraine ju-ju her way for a day or two.
Karma, think karma - what goes around, comes around.
Hope you're feeling a little better today Migraine Chick.

Megan Oltman said...

Oh imagine the very very bad language I am thinking and am committed not to saying on line! I'll be writing cutting responses in my head all day now. Best I can come up with right now is "You are very welcome to use excruciating head pain to get off work. Want mine? I'd love to lend it to you. Come to think of it, don't give it back!"
Dear dear chickie don't let them get to you. They are not worth a ruffle of your feathers. Migrainelupe be with you!
- Megan

Aaron said...

That's complete crap. The sad reality of it is if you were pregnant the time off would be excused without anyone thinking differently. But because you suffer from something not visible and aren't agonizing in front of them, it's not real. It's hard to let something like this go by without making a comment, but in the end it won't help. They're jerks and like others have said, Karma is a bitch.

Emily said...

are you kidding me? ugh. i'm so sorry. that just burns me up. :( life with migraines is hard enough without people discounting your constant suffering.

Bobblehead said...

It shows a larger issue behind migraines. They are invisible to others. Often, unless a sufferer is having a REALLY bad day (vomiting, other clearly outwards signs of illness) migraines are an inner illness. It can look like faking to others.
Now, all logic aside, sounds like your co-worker is a jerk regardless. Best way to deal with her is to deal with yourself and keep yourself healthy. Good luck.
Bobblehead

Migraine Chick said...

I'm really hoping the karma thing works for me. What goes around, comes around, especially for little bratty immature co-workers.

Sue said...

Wow. How immature and cruel your co-workers are. I'm with you - I wish they would be hit with just ONE bad migraine. Or at the very least, a bit of compassion.

Hope you're feeling better...

Anonymous said...

I am so sorry. I really think everyone who is a chronic migraineur deals with this...but I know that doesn't make it any easier. Just know that you are not alone, and you are not wrong. You are in pain. THEY are wrong and should be ashamed. And I know it's easy to say but all we can do in these times is control our response to these people, since we can't control what they say. If we let them bother us, then we are giving ourselves even more pain/frustration, which we do not need!
Hope you have a better week.....

rain gem said...

No surprises there...

The correct answer to such a question is:

"You have to contract an incurable disease".

While they still trying to digest that, you can also add - "come closer, it's nicely contagious."

:P

Anonymous said...

Dear Migraine Chick,

It's true, having this invisible illness is really hard. My husband of twenty plus years just said it's hard for him to remember that I am in alot of pain and that my curt-ness is a result of being in alot of pain and to not take it personally. Hard too for me at work b/c I can go from functioning to oh my gosh, I gotta go b/c I'm gonna wretch. And yes, my co-workers don't understand. I am on probatioin for leaving. It's a fine line we walk. Even people close to us don't understand, re: family and friends. I would consider reporting this to HR and to let them know that you are feeling uncomfortable. Maybe they can send out a memo or talk to this person's supervisor or talk to this person directly. Good luck!

Anonymous said...

Im glad im not the only one out there that is in my situation. Today is my second day calling in sick because of my terrible migraines. And in the past when I have called in sick, when I come back I get nothing but grief. Everyone gives me dirty looks, I hear people talk behind my back saying that I should be able to work with a "headache". I too wish that they could feel my pain. I am stuck at a point in which I am not really sure what to do now. No one believes me so I am visiting a doctor today but I still am not sure what good that will do.