Tuesday, April 24, 2007

Discouragement

I told a good friend of mine that I was starting a blog about migraines. He replied that he thought I was becoming obsessed with migraines. That I was letting them control my life instead of me controlling them.

That really bothered me. Considering my head hurts almost every day now, it is hard not to be obsessed with them. It is hard to control something that is taking over every aspect of my life.

What is better? Pretending to be in control in front of other people, while inside I’m floundering, or trying to find someway to live with this challenge in my life and becoming more actively involved in learning how to cope.

3 comments:

Anonymous said...

Hi Migraine Chick -
It seems to me that alot of people have opinions even though they have no migraines.
I agree with you that you are using your blog as a positive and active way of coping with your illness. It's so difficult to sit around, month after month, year after year, and let the migraine drag you about by the nose. It's a real head game, trying to cope.
Migraine pain is like a big boulder sitting on your head - you can't even MOVE, let alone NOT think about it. In fact, as patients, we are often told to keep daily logs of every aspect of what we do and feel and eat and think, etc., etc. I'd like to know how we're supposed to do all that tracking without appearing obsessed.
I applaud any migraine patient who finds ANYTHING constructive to do with it all. And I like your blog.
Hang in there, -Kate

Angel said...

I agree with Kate. It's one thing for someone to have *a* migraine or a few headaches....but when you can count the number of days without headaches on one hand over a 3 month period, it's hard to find an identity outside of those headaches.

I've found my blog to be very therapeutic, even if I whine sometimes, and even if I'm posting about other things. Much healthier than having to hold it in all the time.

That's the real problem with "invisible" illnesses. Unless you say "ow ow ow" the entire time you have a migraine, no one can see it, unlike a person with a physical disability.

Hang in there, I'm so glad I found your blog! It's a comfort to find others who understand how I feel.

Dianne said...

This friend of yours, is he a qualified mental health professional? If so, have you engaged his professional services?

If the answer to either of these questions is "No," tell him as politely as you can to BUTT. THE. HELL. OUT. Because, while I'm sure he is motivated by the Best of Intentions, he is, in effect, telling you It's All In Your Head.

Only in this case it is all in your head, and he has no clue what that means. I think this blog is not only a great coping mechanism for you (as mine is for me), but it's a great help to the other migraineurs who have stumbled across it.